One way to change your perspective is to change what you're comparing your situation to. This is probably one of the easiest ways to change your mood quickly.
For example, if you're feeling kind of
grumbly about having to get up and go to work in the morning, if you
gave it even ten seconds thought, you could find many things to compare
it to that are much worse. You're not in prison. You're not in a
concentration camp. You have enough to eat. You aren't worried about a
tribe coming and chopping your arm off with a machete, etc.
are already comparing your situation to something. Naturally and
automatically, we usually compare our situation to something better.
Although that's natural and automatic, we certainly aren't stuck with
it. A little deliberate comparison can go a long way.
of something you are unhappy about. Now notice that the reason it makes
you unhappy is that you are comparing it to something better. You're
comparing your situation to something more ideal. But try this: Think of
someone in this world who would take your situation over theirs in a
Whatever you are unhappy about, you can
easily find a worse situation to compare it to. And from that
perspective, you are lucky to have the problem you have, even though it
is obviously not ideal. Who says the ideal is a legitimate thing to use
as a comparison anyway? Something worse is at least as legitimate, and
has a benefit too: You feel better.
This is how to feel
grateful for what you have. Once you know how, it's very easy and works
every time. Read more about this here: Comparison.
Adam Khan is the author of Principles For Personal Growth, Slotralogy, Antivirus For Your Mind, and co-author with Klassy Evans of How to Change the Way You Look at Things (in Plain English). Follow his podcast, The Adam Bomb.