Here are the principles in the most useful form:
1. Arrange times when you can talk, in surroundings conducive to talking.
2. Stay focused on your intention to cultivate closeness.
3. Reveal feelings — yours and theirs. Keep returning to feelings.
4. Listen well. Help the other open up to you.
5. Reveal yourself: what you liked, what you did,
what you feel, what you want.
Go to any of the chapters for a full explanation of the principle: